I came to the sad realization today that friends and family can't always truly share in your happiness and prosperity, and be happy for you. We had to leave our birthplace due to security reasons, and my hubby's job being threatened for the second time by Black empowerment, with no prospects of a new job. Desperate times calls for desperate measures!
The Universe/God/Destiny/whatever you want to call it! slam all the open doors shut in our faces, with a force that other people, especially the people closest to you will never understand. If something doesn't happen to you, how should you comprehend what another person's experience of it would be. But, It also opened a small door for us, a door of uncertainty, a door through which we have based all of our hopes and dreams. Hopes and dreams to make a living for our family, not just an existence!
To leave your country for whatever reason takes a lot of guts! Nothing is a certainty on the other side. All that you have is an attitude of "I have to make it work!" There is no turning back. If you don't make it work, you and your family doesn't have a roof over your heads, don't have food to eat, ...
Yet, even though they can see you are making a success of it and your kids blossom in this new life ... Your friends and family are the first ones to blame you for running away ... being unpatriotic ... not spreading the message of their hardship to the rest of the world ... so that a first world country can come and save them from genocide! Just because a 'prophet' had foreseen it. Unknown to them, their plight are painted in gruesome colours all over social media, web pages and other media.
God/The Universe will save us! Yes, He will, but you have to do your part, you can't sit back and sulk and expect a miracle! People in the New Testament had to walk far distances to Him, to touch Him, to receive His healing power, to be saved!
It breaks my heart to see all of the deaths and farm murders reported. I wish I was rich, so that I could bring everyone over to my new country. I'm not referring to my friends that are desperately looking for a way out, I'm talking about friends that do have the finances/means to make the move. I'm wondering, if the luxury of high salaries, holidays, luxury cars and property are to hard for them to give up? But, I realized tonight, it is something they have to decide for themselves. If their kids doesn't get kidnapped, raped or killed, if they aren't hijacked, brutally attacked, or lose their jobs, they won't have the motivation to make a change.
But when things gets tough, it is easier to blame others that have left and made a success, than picking up your courage and either leave your country, or take up arms and defend yourself. Yes, it might be an easy thing for me to say now, but remember, I was there, I went through what they are going through now, they don't even know a tenth or the horrors we lived through, and will never know! I don't like to dwell on the past and feel sorry for myself!
So the lesson I've learned, as hard as it is, you can't help somebody if they don't want to help themselves. I've heard this saying so many times, but I never envisioned that it would hurt so much if it is somebody close to you ... It is easier to sulk in your unhappiness and blame others, than doing something about it. It takes a determination, that not everybody seems to have.
Thanks to my wonderful husband, who had the courage to lead his family and follow the uncertain path that was laid in front of us. Thanks to my wonderful boys, who are grateful for what they have, and whom are so conscious of what others don't have and what their live would have been if we stayed. Thanks to The Universe/God/Destiny/... who made us all strong in our uncertain and shaky first steps and prepared for us the privileged live we have now.
A grateful Mum, wife and servant of life!
AJ
The Universe/God/Destiny/whatever you want to call it! slam all the open doors shut in our faces, with a force that other people, especially the people closest to you will never understand. If something doesn't happen to you, how should you comprehend what another person's experience of it would be. But, It also opened a small door for us, a door of uncertainty, a door through which we have based all of our hopes and dreams. Hopes and dreams to make a living for our family, not just an existence!
To leave your country for whatever reason takes a lot of guts! Nothing is a certainty on the other side. All that you have is an attitude of "I have to make it work!" There is no turning back. If you don't make it work, you and your family doesn't have a roof over your heads, don't have food to eat, ...
Yet, even though they can see you are making a success of it and your kids blossom in this new life ... Your friends and family are the first ones to blame you for running away ... being unpatriotic ... not spreading the message of their hardship to the rest of the world ... so that a first world country can come and save them from genocide! Just because a 'prophet' had foreseen it. Unknown to them, their plight are painted in gruesome colours all over social media, web pages and other media.
God/The Universe will save us! Yes, He will, but you have to do your part, you can't sit back and sulk and expect a miracle! People in the New Testament had to walk far distances to Him, to touch Him, to receive His healing power, to be saved!
It breaks my heart to see all of the deaths and farm murders reported. I wish I was rich, so that I could bring everyone over to my new country. I'm not referring to my friends that are desperately looking for a way out, I'm talking about friends that do have the finances/means to make the move. I'm wondering, if the luxury of high salaries, holidays, luxury cars and property are to hard for them to give up? But, I realized tonight, it is something they have to decide for themselves. If their kids doesn't get kidnapped, raped or killed, if they aren't hijacked, brutally attacked, or lose their jobs, they won't have the motivation to make a change.
But when things gets tough, it is easier to blame others that have left and made a success, than picking up your courage and either leave your country, or take up arms and defend yourself. Yes, it might be an easy thing for me to say now, but remember, I was there, I went through what they are going through now, they don't even know a tenth or the horrors we lived through, and will never know! I don't like to dwell on the past and feel sorry for myself!
So the lesson I've learned, as hard as it is, you can't help somebody if they don't want to help themselves. I've heard this saying so many times, but I never envisioned that it would hurt so much if it is somebody close to you ... It is easier to sulk in your unhappiness and blame others, than doing something about it. It takes a determination, that not everybody seems to have.
Thanks to my wonderful husband, who had the courage to lead his family and follow the uncertain path that was laid in front of us. Thanks to my wonderful boys, who are grateful for what they have, and whom are so conscious of what others don't have and what their live would have been if we stayed. Thanks to The Universe/God/Destiny/... who made us all strong in our uncertain and shaky first steps and prepared for us the privileged live we have now.
A grateful Mum, wife and servant of life!
AJ